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another one blocked
humor and venting… omg!
humor… part 1
why yes..
that is a banana in my pocket and i am happy to see you
venting… part 2
omg the stooopids are eating my brain
please save me from people who are privileged enough to display narcissistic tendencies, have no empathy towards others who suffer from triggers and feel that social shaming is delusional and really self afflicted…
i
just
can’t
human
today
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deep thoughts due to attack in Brussels
another attack…
it makes me ill
the attack in Brussels, the wars in other countries, all the suffering that makes it to the news and all the suffering that never gets heard…
the greed, the fear, the hatred…
it makes me ashamed to be human…
somewhere in the universe, another world is viewing us through their own version of Hubble and one day picking up our broadcasts…
i know that light takes a very long time to reach us and that what we see in space is often long gone…
living in the now, for us, i hope we get better as a planet so that when those who are viewing us have something bright to see instead of this humiliation…
yes, it is stupid to worry what others think…
but at the same time if we worried a little bit more in the right directions, maybe one day we would have a more utopian like society, so that we could be the wise and friendly aliens who go out to help others become advanced
but on the path we currently walk, i fear for ourselves and the terrors we would most likely participate in, if not unleash, on the universe
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male vs female kink ratio ..fetlife reply
as before
fetlife never fails to make me think
granted there is wine
but my thoughts are still mine
so as per usual
here is the post on fetlife that made me go “hmmmmmmmmmm”
(god i miss arsenio hall)
poster said:
Evening all
This has probably been asked before but why is it that kink in whatever shape and form seem to be vastly more popular with men than women?
and my response
ok let me put in my two cents…
i am an american living in france and i spent two years in the london metro area…
i apologize in advance if anything i say, based off of my experiences, should happen to piss anyone off or make them go “omg no you are totally wrong”
so…. male vs female kink
the problem is that male vs female ANYTHING is always in favor of men
the reason behind this thought is that…
men… boys will be boys
guys are encouraged to go out and fuck like mad, sew those oats and be randywomen are told to be good lil virgins, only fuck for the man we have already married and god forbid we should take pleasure for ourselves
with this in mind… we ladies are also told that what we think isnt important, what we do is ok but men will do it better or get paid more for the same shit and not to forget that if we don’t look barbie doll perfect or run way model outstanding… that we don’t exist
now… that is life in general
not even touching the rapes, the abuse or other bullshit that happens to women on a daily basis which shapes how we see ourselves, even when we try to stop being in victim modeeven the most adjusted female
the least abused or victimized female
all of us suffer from the media telling us who we should be, how we should look and what is attractive and acceptablewith this in mind.. and not counting the cultural crap we have to deal with in religion or our own communities (be it big town or small country village)… women have to, in general, fight to like themselves.. to feel safe in their body, to be ok with touching their own body and taking pleasure
not all women suffer this
not all men are dicksbut the majority that i have known, in the states, the uk, france and those i have meet from other countries…the majority of women have a shit load of crap they have to wade through before they can get past the idea of self pleasure and having sex for non marital relationships… not even getting to the point of kink
now depending on which country you are in, changes all the responses i could have on men… in the states it varies from frat boy idiots to shy virgins (literally or nearly so).. all the way up to frenchies and others thinking 50 shades is gospel
the huge problem is lack of communication and refusing to learn what bdsm started as, where it has gone and what that means to you and your partner
too many are scared or crazed and in a frenzy to jump in
too many who judge
too much crapso, thats my two cents
there is just too much bullshit that weighs us all down
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don’t judge me … #NoBraDay .. “Put your boobs back in your bra and donate to cancer research.”
so as you know from other posts
i decided to participate in “no bra day”
i posted 2 images on facebook
1 was shared by a friend
seems one of her friends just didnt approve
now i get that some people are prudish
others are stupid
some are just cruel
some always have to be right or know whats best
some are ubber conservative
and others have religious or cultural differences
ok..fine
and yeah i get that those who have survived cancer could be offended
i know i would still be showing my breasts no matter how they looked if i had cancer (survival or no)
we tell women to do this, do that, think this, think that but dont worry you have equal rights
just no nursing in public, we cant tolerate that!
no birth control options for you young lady
“you dress that way so you must be asking for it”
no taking enjoyment in sex for the sake of pleasure… guys can but god forbid a woman do it too
being told “your place is in the kitchen”
growing up being told it is our fault for getting felt up on the bus, bras snapped in class
no being proud of your body
no positive reinforcement to be female
“you hit/run/scream/etc like a girl”
fuck you! i am a girl!!
i am proud of who i am, where i have been, the struggles i have been through
i have been sick for 24 years! i will be 36 at the end of this month
i am a survivor of many traumas
and i do not sit back and let things happen when i am capable of helping others
so the message to my meme on facebook
well it pissed me off
and here is what we all said
my friend:
Brest cancer awareness brought to you by the lovely Shalla Radiolady! CHECK YOURSELF MEN AND WOMEN!
her friend:
I’m sorry, I get that this is for breast cancer awareness. But to me it’s simply dumb. Put your boobs back in your bra and donate to cancer research.
and me:
i helped in cancer research as an animal care tech…
the wealthfare of the animals being tested is the most important part of the research but all the funding given…it is not given to the ones like me who dealt with writing down animal deaths, births, new cancerous growths, putting down the animals, changing their cages, filling supplies, cleaning their cages and sterilizing their cagesnor is the money being used to properly supply the universities with all the people and machines needed to care for the animals…..instead it goes to the scientists and their students (who rarely follow protocol and can cause all kinds of illness to spread and infect the research) because they are the ones with the degree and deemed important…..without the animals, you dont have tests, without proper tests you dont get results… ie wasted time and money(ex hubby is a PhD in cell biology, i have also worked in his world slicing samples for research and other grunt work)but if you also look at those organizations who “help” with cancer research, rarely any of the money actually gets to the scientists… yay for lined pockets..so.. i will keep posting my breastsnot simply to remind people to think about their own (not just women but men too) but also because we need to see more nudity so that we stop being ashamed of our bodies and stop treating them like objects…..did you know that in africa cancer is treated as a contagious disease and women who are suffering from breast cancer are outcasted from their families and forced to deal with their cancer alone… and yeah i know this because i helped with the photography for the women speaking at events for African Women’s Cancer Association Awareness..i was also a sex therapist on the radio and i have worked with an organization in the uk who help promote equal (sexual/sexuality) rights for the handicap..i am a life coach and i blog, i share my body in images because i know it isnt what the media deems attractive and yet every year i have someone tell me how i inspired them to love their body..i help save lives every year and i am hoping to soon start working with some of the local prostitutes to help give them the mental health support they are lacking in my community..so..sorry… i happen to be poor but i have time to give and experience to offer..my big point is… at the end of the day… i have done something, i have made an effort and that laststomorrow is a new day… and i will keep doing somethingdonating money, great if you have it but it is something you can walk away from and forget, go about your life and never face any of the reality..so… if you have money greatbut dont judge me
Did I say you in particular? No. I’m just giving my two cents. I feel personally that if anyone is posting pics, great, go for it. But it is not like it does anything. Will a pic of yourself donate? No. If you wanna remind people to check for breast cancer, make a post.And yes, I was aware, but again, a pic does nothing. If you are poor, just make a post to remind family and friends to check themselves.
umm those are my boobs in that pici have over 600 people who follow me, i have over 1000 on twitter and many more who follow my blog.. all 3 places have this pic… i am a public person, maybe not famous… but i tip the scales… so maybe this pic does not raise money… but it does get people thinking.. if that thought for you means donate money..job well done, go out and give
I was aware, but I was saying in general ;). Your thing is your thing. Your opinion is yours and mine is mine. I really do not understand the reason why we are arguing over something as simple as an opinion. I really hope you spread awareness, though.
i am upset because too many people think money makes a difference.. it is impersonal and rarely gets to the people who need it
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i am upset because i have done a lot that most never would and i have seen the inner workings of the system
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i am upset because i choose to do something but get attacked for it.. be it in general or directly
..
i am upset that people (in general or directly) assume that my choice to show my breasts in support of this meme/event/day is just a scream for attention and excuse to get the boys (or girls) drooling for shallow fun in disguise of the real deal (did you say this, no but easily could be said/thought by anyone)
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i am upset because too many ..around the world.. judge
you can have an opinion, it is wonderful to have one
but don’t be surprised if others decide to mirror back the judgment made on them
..
i mean, take selena gomez for example… a more neutral topic
she recently went public with the fact that she has lupus
the reason why she went public was because so many of her fans, random people with an opinion..
decided to bash her for being out of the public eye and canceling shows
omg OBBBBBVIOUSLY she must be a drunk or druggy and in rehab
her fans treated her like shit, posting comments all over the web
why?
because they had an opinion and one idiot after another listened to that opinion.. which helped spread hate and entertainment at the expense of another human being
..
you don’t like something
fine, don’t like it
you don’t agree with something
no big deal
you live life by a different set of rules
don’t judge me and how i live my life based off your opinions and your rules
..
so… yes i took this personally
because you said “Put your boobs back in your bra and donate to cancer research.”
and i bet you thought you could get away with stating your…opinion…
and not have a backlash
possibly thinking that this was just a meme shared by a friend by a friend by other people
instead of the one who created and posed for the meme
..
and if you don’t understand “why we are arguing over something as simple as an opinion”
words have value, the have weight
opinions are voiced words… they count
and all it takes is one person to say the wrong thing for it to become gospel in the minds of those who refuse to think for themselves
..
i’m not saying your opinion is wrong
i am saying why it pissed me off
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