more venting ..body shaming and stupidity

So, tonight i saw a friend venting over the fact that her kids had to deal with body shaming..

they are preteen girls and they eat more healthy than a lot of people i know

they are active and smart and behave the way kids should

but because they are girls they fall into the category of crap we as a society seem to find acceptable

i am all for exercise and eating right

i know i NEED to slim down so that my body will hurt less and i will have more energy

yes looking more the shape i want is part of it

but i know there are a good number of you lot who read this and love my curves and softness

i don’t want to be “stick skinny” that isn’t how my bones or body type are meant to be

but on that same note, if your bones and body type ARE meant to be stick skinny, there is no shame in that!!

i want to be stronger and more defined in my shapes, my curves and softness

i want to be tempered and solid but still comfortable for snuggles

but i want this for me, for my healthy, for my well being

for me, slimming down is not about being more confident or giving a shit what others think of me

and not because society says i have to fit a mold and look this way for others

I am confident in who I am!

but everywhere i go i see all kinds of shaming and victimizing

TV people telling women “hide your pregnancy to get a job” ..this from another woman!!

commercials making women the butt of jokes or victims or implying that they can only be shopaholics with less than 2 brain cells to rub together

i look at the teens my boys go to school with and i cringe… OK so that covers the kids in France

then i look at the ones in the UK. the states.. i keep cringing

everywhere i travel you have morons leading the packs

worse than any hive mind or clique mentality that i grew up with in the various schools i went to

people scare me

when i look at the choices the governments are making in all countries and i look at what is on TV and what is being shown as acceptable thoughts and behaviors

i cringe

I am all for the happiness of others, the well being of others but not at any expense

it seems that every place I look, people jump from topic to topic and do the bare minimum to really make a change

and then people bitch at you when you point out this flaw

sure I want gays to have the right to marry..now they do… but they sure as fuck should have the right to not be persecuted for being gay in the work place or anywhere else and they sure as shit should have had that FROM THE START! But no… that is something they still have to fight for

which is bullshit

and I am all for black lives mattering.. as in I do not want victims being made out of innocent people … but I don’t want people focusing only on the “black” part of that statement!

And no mater how many people tell me that no one is saying it… they are.. people are focusing on the “black” part..and the “gay” part..and the “female” part and there are thousands of other ways we keep dividing the statement to fit…instead of focusing on the main issue

ALL LIVES MATTER (and I don’t mean human only!)

and not to forget

EVERYONE HAS THE RIGHT TO BE HAPPY AND FEEL SAFE

yes there will always be morons who shame others and bully and treat people like shit

it isn’t right that they exist but it happens

what shouldn’t happen is letting those kind of behaviors run rampant and become acceptable!

I should not feel bad about myself for being female!

I should not feel like I have to be an object for men to pay attention to me!

now don’t get me wrong I love the attention I get from posting ARTISTIC or thought provoking or funny images that are also erotic and I love knowing I make others sexually stimulated ..it is fun and I like it

but I don’t want the crap that a huge majority of the guys give me when I say no!

I will not take a pic just for you or I will not go on cam just for you or I will not compromise myself and my ideals just for you

I have value!

I have been raped by my HUSBAND!

I have been raped by my boyfriend of 3 YEARS! Who everyone expected me to marry

I was almost raped by two boyfriends and one sex friend

never at any point was I “asking for it”

in each case I trusted these men, loved deeply some of them and was reduced to nothing in a matter of seconds

the one time I was almost raped by a completely random stranger, it was simply because I was female and there and he felt he had the right to take what he wanted

I was not wearing slutty clothing or asking for it in any way

I was made to be a victim but in his mind he was just being friendly and trying to have a good time

we as a society constantly say one thing and do another

when are we going to stick to one idea and get it done all the way

no more half assed behavior!

we fought to have equal rights for “women” for “children” to end “slavery” for “gays/lgbt” for the “handicapped” for “animals” for “religious freedom”

you name it and we fight for “insert x type” of equality

and we gain it on a piece of paper and in partial action

but not fully

women still don’t have equal rights no matter what is said

and children still don’t have equal rights

and on and on

and we shame people and segregate people and keep encouraging people to stop thinking

hive mind mentality

“do what I want”

“think what I want”

you puny humans don’t need to think for yourselves

bah so sick of all this

so disappointed in people

4 Responses

  1. this is extremely well written my friend, very well written indeed.

  2. A powerful piece

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