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    March 2015
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fetlife … fetishes, long hair and why people should fuck off

once again i have been inspired to write

reading through some of the posts that show up from fetlife

i found this one interesting because i have had friends challenged about how kinky they are or look

one friend almost getting tossed out of an event because he just looked too normal (there was no dress code)


this post is about a fetish being judged

the person asks if anyone else is being asked to justify their fetish

she enjoys men with long hair

it is an intense pleasure

it is her fetish

she writes

I’ve got a few accounts on other fetish and dating sites. Increasingly, I’m being asked to explain the ‘anatomy’ of my fetish. I’m regularly accused of being shallow and I’m commonly told: ‘Liking long hair isn’t a ‘REAL’ fetish but merely a preference’. Surely,


is defined as:

noun: fetish; plural noun: fetishes

a form of sexual desire in which gratification is linked to an abnormal degree to a particular object, item of clothing, part of the body, etc.
“a man with a fetish for surgical masks”
synonyms: fixation, sexual fixation, obsession, compulsion, mania;

I’m upset and confused as to why, others seem to view aesthetic fetishes in a more negative light? I’m in NO way shallow and dislike this assumption with a passion. Why do you think others can’t take us seriously? Does your experience vary?

Please, discuss and share your thoughts.

Thanks xx

so my response was the following

remember, it is how i see my world, not how everyone should see it

i have been studying the kink/bdsm world since i was 12

ok 8 if you count how i felt about david bowie in labyrinth…

yeah yeah he has a cock in his pants but oooo what is that “I ask for so little. Just fear me, love me, do as I say and I will be your slave”…. D/s mind games!!! i love them!!!

the scene has changed over the last 20+ years
much like music, a good strong starting point for ideas but later splicing off into similar paths with more added to the mix

some people are stupid, arrogant and happy to remain clueless
they judge and think they know best
telling what you should be like instead of trying to understand what works for you

i know a couple of guys with the fetish of shrinking and using…; either they are shrunk or their partner shrunk and someone getting used in a naughty way
usually i have males that want to be shrunk and have me put them in my panties or image i eat them or what not

not my thing… i get nothing from that, hard to even imagine it

i had one guy that really wanted to pretend like he was being eaten
hog tied, slathered with sauces, fake baking and fake eating

again not my thing does absolutely fuck all for me

poney play.. seriously? i just dont get it, i mean i understand how it works i just dont get how it is enjoyable

but thats me

my fetish is touch and cuddles and a good voice
i am also a giver, i love to give pleasure to others and i often take pride in it, a bit smug even
the best is giving in such a way that it can cause pain (not harmful) for those who like to be dominated in a more mother goddess loving way… love hurts as well as heals

i just cant pull of the big bad ass latex dominatrix lol

everyone is different
their brain is wired differently
we enjoy life our way
but best to do it in a way that is consensual and causes no harm/damage

just something that caught my eye and wanted to share

2 Responses

  1. I was on fetlife. My profile is “deactivated” I felt like it was to full of small groups. Judgement is silently passed on members. Even in my own town I was blown off after setting up a mtg prior to a social gathering. I have nothing positive to say about fetlife. I think if long hair arouses someone…great for that them. I personally love a man in long hair. I have a pinterest board just for that. People can be so insensitive. Ugh

    • i find that there are shit people everywhere
      i tend to enjoy fetlife more than alt and avoid collarme or other kink dating sites

      i tend to avoid most of the crap and dig for the jewels that stimulate me or the newbies looking for advice

      and the lost souls that suffer, i love helping

      but yeah, it is easy to walk away from, i am not very active

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